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3/6 So how do you Change your will?

So far on this journey to understand the seven parts to your personality, we have presented an overview to what we have been calling ‘The Boardroom’.  This is a concept that explains the inner workings of your internal system of Mind, Will, human spirit, your heart, emotions, conscience and your body.

As we saw in our previous post, the vast majoriey of people have a ‘Boardroom’ that is in disorder, without unity and often in conflict betwee the members!

As you learn to have all these ‘parts’ of your personality in working order, you will be working toward Total Wholeness more and more, especially as you add the Eight Member – your Creator!

In these last posts, we have been looking at the Mind, that logical, rational ‘…Just get on with it!’ part of your world.  In fact, we presented the Mind as the Entrance to the Boardroom as the ‘SuperComputer’ Mind ‘catches’ and directs our life by the thoughts allowed to stay.  As such, the Mind can be ‘renewed’ and changed ….and your life will change.

In this post we continue with your journey with the Will.  We last looked at the process of change and better health for the Will.  In this post, we want to examine the whole process of change but from a different angle.   We might realise that we need to change but ….HOW?

 A.  SO HOW DO I CHANGE MY WILL?

 Well, Change starts to happen when we get real with ourselves … especially on what we want to change.  This means look at the situation with honesty.

Is the change you want realistic?  I’d love to be a top dancer….and yes, the body will meet up to some of the demands I make on it.  I could do the training, the exercises, the diet, the discipline to get there ….but in the long run, do I want to finish this goal bad enough to start the journey?    Huuummmm – don’t think so‼

Then it stands to reason that it is best to choose a goal that is reachable, can be measured and adjusted as you go along.  This would be a goal with short steps to accomplish, rather than one massive leap into …. failure.

 1.  For the purpose of this post, think of one goal. 

Perhaps it would be to work on better sleeping habits, more exercise, less stressful events, meaning more people, mixing with less people …. What would be one goal you would like to do for yourself?  I’ll use a personal example to guide us through these steps.

 2.  Write out your goal as specific as possible: 

I want to print off two pictures for a friend as a gift.  These were pictures she had found of herself as a little girl.  I would like to print and frame these two pictures as a special gift for a special friend.

 3.  Evaluate your goal:

Is it achievable?  Is it worth the effort?  Do I know how to you it?  Do I have what I need to do the job?   My goal is pretty much ‘yes’ to all the above.

 4.  What stops me from doing it then? 

Time to set aside to do just the printing and framing, getting side tracked onto other jobs that need doing.  Sometimes doing the ‘desperately needs doing’ takes precedence over the ‘urgent’.  The knowledge to do the job is a little sketchy so I’d need to let myself be technologically challenged.  I think of doing it and I don’t have time then….or I have the time but don’t think of it …. So the list goes on.  Basically it’s ‘procrastination’.

B.  TO GET THE GOAL FINISHED?

 1.  Face Procrastination!

Some of this change journey begins when we challenge the Will to stop procrastinating.  By stating issues as resolvable, we can move beyond faulty ways of looking at things.

 2.  We all have change in our lives. 

Some people try hard not to change because they see change is a threat.   Some people will choose not to change.  When you are being restored to wholeness under the direction of your spirit and the Holy Spirit, you’ll find a renewed, helpful Will.  Its new job is being the Executive Secretary allowing for change to be a good path.

The journey for change is a continuous one but it must involve the heart’s commitment for healthy growth and success.

 3.  See the Condition of your Will

Condition   of your will?

Yes/no

a.   Being

   passive

Failure to take responsibility, ‘under-adapting’,

b.   A learned

  helplessness

Unresolved issues cause me to see myself as a victim, often from poor role models from the past.

c.   Disabling

   self-talk

The “I can’t do it” routine from past failures.    “It’s too hard to do anything” frame of mind.

d.   Mind

   control cycles

The ongoing guilt and depression cycles which rob you of being able to make decisions and your peace.

 4.  Motivation is a big key but what motivates you and what doesn’t.

If you would get past the inertia, the drifting the self-sabotage, what would that feel like?  Do you know what blocks your actions, what stops your growth?

….time?  ….money  ….not know how?

We need to cooperation of that hidden inner core of your own personal world.  That’s why being self-aware is such an important piece of the puzzle for change!

 C.  LET’S TALK ABOUT MOTICATION TO CHANGE 

 1.  Change is like crossing a river. 

 You can stand on one bank of the river and dream about what it would be like to be on the other side of the river all your life.  You can start down the bank and then back-track for fear of the cost of crossing and change.

 Some people get to the middle of the river and are paralysed with going on that they stay stuck there for years – trying to change but without the motivation to really change.

Others might get almost there but give up and return to the safety of what they know on the other side.

 However, some people make it all the way across the river and up the other side.  They have just reached a place where they wanted to be and hopefully, find God and happiness all wrapped into one package.

2.  How bad do you want to bring change into your life?

What are the blocks and barriers to bring that change?  What keeps you on the other side of the bank when you know you would be better off on the better side?

3.  Look at the goal from the other side of the river.

 One interesting approach is to look at the final step – standing on the other side.  What does that feel like?  What will be the benefits of being ‘there’?  What were the final challenges you had to face before you could stand on the other side of the river?  What was the step before that? – climbing up the bank.  What did that feel like and the benefits?

 Then what’s before that?…and before that?…until you have a plan on how to cross the river….and you know what each stage feels like and the challenge for that step.  By thinking it through from this angle, you can almost see the problems from this side of the bank and gain the confidence that you can reach the other side.

4.  Give yourself the gift of time to see the end from the beginning.

Spend some time building your motivation before you start the journey of change.  If not, you are likely to get stuck or drown in the current that comes with change.  Develop a stratagem and some checkpoints for your progress too.

In our next post, we will present Marsha’s story as an example of change.  You might find some answers to your own Will’s motivation to change.

 Susanne Fengler, Blog Author

www.totalwholeness.mentorsnotebook.com

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