6/2 Intro to Emotions and Total Wholeness

Welcome back to the Boardroom of your Personality!

Your personality – or what we have called ‘The Boardroom’ – is constantly feeling emotions, thinking about things, sorting out different views and making decisions.  Most of this activity is ‘under cover’; we need to look for the patterns that are happening to understand our own Boardroom.

Remember the other influences in the Boardroom?  For most people, the Conscience has a large say in any decisions.  This voice uses the ‘should, ought, must’ and etc.  It often condemned us into action.

We have already discussed ‘The Will’, that part of us which carries out whatever decisions are made.  The human Spirit is there also but we understand little of its authority to rule.  In fact, as we have seen, the human spirit is often rejected by the other members of your personality – or hiding behind the door or involved elsewhere.

Then don’t forget we talked about ‘The Mind’, the logical rational part of us that wants to make decisions and be the ‘Supremem director’ of our life.

All this combines into disharmony and confusion in the majority of people.  The results are physical complaints and mental discouragement.  So what is the answer?  To start with, we need to see the different ‘parts’, understand their purpose and then to bring harmony to live the way our Creator meant for us.

A.  Welcome to the part Emotions have in Total Wholeness

Emotions are probably one of the most written about, least understood and most repressed members of our whole personality.  They are prolifically but they are still the least recognise for what they are. They are often maligned, feared, buried, and neglected, but this is not God’s intention for our Emotions.

Most of us have learned to handle our Emotions in dysfunctional ways from unhealthy role models.  However, through understanding healthy guidelines, we can learn to reclaim this valuable member of the Boardroom for greater service, peace and wholeness.

B.  What do we mean by our Emotions?

1. Emotions are the ‘inner, automatic response to an outside stimulus’. 

They may be ‘pleasant’ or ‘unpleasant’ sensations or feelings.  They are usually unsolicited, unchosen, reactions to events.  Actually, Emotions are morally neutral; they are neither ‘good nor bad’.  It’s what we do with the emotion that makes them ‘good or bad’. They are commonly expressed as ‘how we feel’ and may be either pleasant or unpleasant.

2. The word “emotions” is not a Biblical term.

However, we find general principles, such as “mourn with those who mourn”, Romans 12:15, “be angry, but sin not”, Ephesians 4:26.  Scriptures like these tell us that emotions are not to be quenched, but respected.  We are created in God’s image, and He has emotions too, so we must value them, because He does!

3. Emotions are not thoughts, nor our reasoning functions.

Certainly, our feelings can influence our thoughts and our thoughts influence our Emotions.  If we are upset about something, our emotions can stop us from thinking clearly and making decisions. Our emotions can keep us from hearing from God.  Emotions feel very real, but alone they don’t always give us a true picture of the reality of the situation around us.

Although our feelings are real they do not always accurately represent reality or truth. They are affected by how we perceive or think about reality. For example if my child comes home with a bad report card the reality is that he has poor grades.

I may perceive it as laziness on the part of the child (using my mind) and as a result be angry or annoyed at the child. If I perceive the bad report card as the result of inadequate teaching of the school or teacher, I may be angry at them and feel sorry for the child.

Remember, how we think will affect how we feel which in turn affects how we behave. We can see from this example why it is important to understand the role of emotions in our lives.

4. Emotions are as common as our breathing. 

They can be rich, useful, varied or annoying.  Emotions can be changeable, fickle, moldable and yet set in concrete from our childhood.  Sometimes they are controllable; other times we don’t know what to do with them.  We think we can ignore our emotions – but only to our own pain!!

5. If we deal with our emotions in harmful ways, they become like ingrained poisons.

Emotions may seem ‘boundary-less’.  In fact, hurt emotions may seem too overwhelming to even begin to sort through – or too insignificant to even bother with.  That is what our mind tells us anyway.  Emotions can be like ‘pliers’ that squeeze and grip us or, at other times, they can be like ‘vapours’ that just seem to vanish when we try to understand them.

6. Emotions come as a package deal. 

You can’t sort through and select only the ones you want to feel.  In fact, we usually feel 3 times the ‘negative’ ones compared to the ‘positive’ ones.  Remember feelings are neither ‘good’ nor ‘bad’ in themselves.  They are really neutral.  It is what we do with our emotions that make them ‘good’ or ‘bad’.

7. Emotions are intertwined with our spirit, soul and body. 

Emotions are intertwined with other Boardroom members and impact our whole system; our bodies, for example, can often bear the brunt of a continual unhealthy handling of emotions.  They have a great impact on our whole system, from our ligaments to the inner organs.  Emotions combine with the spiritual heart and the physical body in developing psychosomatic diseases, or very real life threatening illnesses.

8. Emotions can interfere with hearing from the Lord. 

When we learn how to bring our Emotions under the Lordship of Jesus, peace returns and we can hear His voice more clearly.  Being on the ‘roller coaster’ of our emotions will stop this from happening.  We tend to listen to the voice of our emotions rather than the Lord.

You are a unique person when it comes to your Emotions.  We all have different sensitivities, intensities and levels to our emotions.  We all handle our emotions in different ways.  Some people find themselves doing battle with their emotions while others have learned to be at peace with them.

In our next post, we see how our Creator intended out Emotions to function.  They can be helpful messengers or cruel masters.  So how do we develop our emotions?  So join us then as have your say in the comments section,

Susanne Fengler, Blog Author

PS.  As we begin this series, I would recommend your get the eBook on Emotional Intelligence from our home page.  ….or you can email me personally and I will send you a copy. 




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