7/1 Total Wholeness & Having Healthy Emotions

 Welcome back!  In our previous posts in our Total Wholeness blog, we’ve talked about the mind, the Will, the human Spirit, the conscience and then the Heart.  We saw how all of these parts of your personality can have a ‘mind of their own’ and keep us from finding health and wholeness.  

In this post, we are introducing another part that seems to have ‘a mind of its own’your emotions. 

Emotions are one of the most written about; least understood and most repressed members of our whole personality.  They are often maligned, feared, buried and neglected.  Father God intended us to have healthy emotions and He intended them as helpers for us to see our heart.

Most of us have learned to handle our emotions in dysfunctional ways from unhealthy role models.  However, through Jesus Christ, our Lord, we can learn to reclaim this valuable member of the Boardroom for greater service, peace and wholeness.

What do we mean by our Emotions?

Emotions are the inner, automatic response to an outside stimulus’They may be ‘pleasant’ or ‘unpleasant’ sensations or feelings.  They are usually unsolicited, unchosen, reactions to events.  Emotions are neutral; they are neither ‘good nor bad’.  It’s what we do with the emotion that makes them ‘good or bad’.

Emotions are as common as our breathing.  They can be rich, useful, varied or annoying, changeable, fickle, moldable and yet set in concrete from our childhood.  Sometimes they are controllable; other times we don’t know what to do with them.  We think we can stuff our emotions into storage – but only to our own pain!! 

If we deal with our emotions in harmful ways, they become like ingrained poisons.

Emotions may seem ‘boundary-less’.  In fact, hurt emotions may seem too overwhelming to even begin to sort through – or too insignificant to even bother with.  That is what our mind tells us anyway. 

Emotions are intertwined with our spirit, soul and body.  They have a great impact on our whole system, from our ligaments to the inner organs.  Emotions combine with the spiritual heart and the physical body in developing psychosomatic diseases.

You are a unique person when it comes to your emotions.  We all have different sensitivities, intensities and levels to our emotions.  We all handle our emotions in different ways.  Some people find themselves doing battle with their emotions while others have learned to be at peace with them.

Our Family of Origin (or FOO) is the first and most lasting influence on our emotional development, especially our mother.  Remember the first 6 years are the most essential to good mental and emotional health. The child buries emotions to be able to function.  Suppression can happen so often that now as an adult, they are unable to feel those emotions.  By learning to express emotions, by verbalising them, or writing them down, the child’s repressed emotions can be brought to light. 


If you could collect all your emotions, you might hear a conversation like this:

”Yes, I’ve tried to get everyone’s attention too!  I’ve been feeling a lot of anger, bitterness and frustration for being unwanted and unloved. 

“Being squashed and buried is the most common experience for me.  The mind has used pills and more pills to keep me from leaking and taking over.  I’m afraid that if I begin to leak out, I will lose control.

“Maybe I’m over-reacting but I’m sure they are after me again.  Her come the Will so I guess I’ll just go into some more depression ….sigh…sigh….”


As we can see, our feelings are designed to be our ‘tools’, or servants to help clarify what is happening to us moment by moment.  They are ‘sounding devices’ to help stop really serious psychological problems from developing; valuable allies as we learn how God intended them to work.

Thanks for joining us in the quick introduction to your emotions.  You can see the journey here is going to be one of patience with the emotions as we have learned so many ways to hide, bury and deny their existence ….resulting in more pain and problems to the body. 

So guess who is the next member of the BR we need to meet on our way toward Total Wholeness?  Yes, next we will look at the reprehseensive of the physical body and its place in the meetings at the Boardroom.  So join us then,

Susanne Fengler, Blog Author




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