7/20 Three common heart lies that Block Total Wholeness

As we continue to allow the Lord to show us what is in our Heart that needs attention, we often come across Three deeply rooted lies that we believe.

Lie #1:  I need to change people’s behaviour to be happy

Silently ask Jesus this question:  “Lord Jesus, do I believe in my heart that I need to change others’ behaviour?”

a. The truth is that I can’t change anyone’s behaviour.  They are going to make their own choices (Deuteronomy30:15-19).

b. God does not want me to manipulate people into doing the ‘right’ thing.

c. Even God can’t change people who don’t want to be changed (Mark 10:17-22).

d. In any sort of conflict, Jesus is always interested in MY response.  I’m the one He is trying to refine (Zechiel 13:9).

e. It is the job of the Holy Spirit to convict people and change them, not mine.

lie #2:  I can successfully avoid pain & hurt in my life

Silently ask Jesus this question:  “Lord Jesus, do I believe in my heart that I can avoid hurt and pain?”

The reason I feel the need to change others is two-fold:

a. I see them as the source of love, happiness, finance, etc., whereas God is the real source.  They are only the vessels He uses to bless me.

b. I want to change them, so they don’t hurt me anymore.

The truth is that pain and hurt are going to come my way, whether I try to avoid it or not.

lie #3:  God is not a loving father

Silently ask Jesus this question:  “Lord Jesus, do I believe in my heart that God is NOT a loving Father?”

a. Since the serpent slandered God’s good intentions in Genesis, this lie is possibly the foundation of all sin.

b. The Bible claims that God is good, He is Love and loves YOU!

c. God wants to do YOU good – not harm YOU.  He disciplines you as any loving Father would.  He uses the pain and tragedies of life to do you good, to bless and refine you or bless others.

“And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose,” Romans 8:28.

By working on our heart lies, we can obtain the freedom that comes from real faith in God’s character and nature.  Since He cannot change, His love for us is also a stable fact.

Susanne Fengler, Blog Author




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