7/9 With God’s help we can Explore our Heart

As we continue with the concept of the Heart, we trust you are taking the time to think through the issues as they come up.  Another interest discription of your Heart is what some people call ‘the Inner Child’.

A.  The Heart behaves much like a child. 

1.  My friend and the Cricket Bat

One illustration of the way the heart reacts is the consequence of being hit by a cricket bat.  In the first scene I’m playing cricket with a friend and accidentally hit his skull with the bat and send him to hospital.  He needs major surgery and his head is in agony.

In the second scene I hit my friend on purpose with the bat and send him to hospital in agony.

Discussion:  Does the skull care whether the blow was on purpose or not?

2.  Johnny Goes to School Camp

In this story Johnny is an 8 year old who is really looking forward to going to school camp.  He is constantly talking about it and bugging Mum.  On the day of the camp his mother gets a phone call and becomes agitated.  Mum yells at Johnny to hurry up, she throws the camping gear into the car and speeds of with Johnny to the pickup point for the bus.

Johnny’s Mum throws the gear on the bus and without saying goodbye zooms off in the car.  In shock, poor Johnny considers whether his Mother really loves him or not.  Because in Johnny’s mind a loving mother would never do such a thing, his Mother must not love him.  He is very sad and feeling rejected all the way to the school camp.

Discussion:  Did Johnny’s Mother really reject him?

3.  Fred’s Dad beats him

Fred is a six year old and Fred worships his Dad like a ‘god’.  However, Dad has been under a lot of stress lately.  One day Fred does something that really upsets his Dad and Fred gets a belting.  Fred gets falsely accused by his father of doing something terrible, so Fred gets angry.  When Fred tries to protest, he gets a further severe beating.  Now Fred is in a quandary.  He hates his Dad, but he loves his Dad.

Discussion:  Should Fred hate or love his Dad?

B.  The point of these stories is that the Heart soaks up hurt and anger – rather than logic and reasonable thinking patterns.

Our heart is like a sponge; it soaks up hurts and wrong motivations when we are young.  Our parents are supposed to guard our vulnerable child hearts, but of course most parents don’t even know how to guard their own hearts, let alone their children’s.

The Bible says that if we raise a child properly, then it will have the underlying skills to deal with Life in a Godly way (Proverbs. 22:6).

Of course the opposite is also true – when we get emotionally or spiritually injured in some way as a child, we will be stunted in our growth.  Because of the childhood dramas we experience, in spite of our parents or because of them, our heart gets traumatised.  When this happens, our heart stops growing.  Many hurting people have hearts that are only 4 or 5, when their physical age may be 20, 50 or 70.

1.  So how does Hurt get into our Heart? 

The process works like this:  My heart gets traumatised – example: you were hit by a baseball bat – and wounded as a child by some emotional blow.  Satan, our adversary and Father of Lies, inserts a lie into my heart, such as “My Dad doesn’t love me”.  The lie seems reasonable at the time.  Because the heart is bruised, the lie is able to take root.

Further, because we are in pain, some ‘treasure’ seems especially good for pain relief.  We therefore enjoy the treasure and the heart swallows it up and makes it part of itself.  The treasure can be physical (chocolate), emotional (fear), intellectual (my Dad hates me) or spiritual (a demon).

2.  We could summarise this process with this flowchart:

We get hurt by something that happens to us —– > Our Heart allows that hurt in  —– > Our Heart makes a judgement of some sort:  “He doesn’t love me.”   —— >  The Heart gets angry, sad, annoyed, etc.  —–> The Heart allows unforgiveness to settle in  ——– >  We now have an unforgiving heart  ——- > The enemy has a legal right with the ungodly attitudes  —– > spiritual bondages develop  —– >  all kinds of problems result.

C.  The heart MUST BE willing to Deal with its Issues.

1.  We need to learn to listen to our heart.

Medical science tells us that about 80% of all disease is psychosomatic – meaning we carry the causes of the disease in our lifestyle.

Much of this kind of illness is related to judgements, unforgiveness or bitterness.  Learn to heal the lifestyle rather than cure the physical symptom.

2. When we don’t listen to our heart, it often tries to ‘gain our attention’ by developing physical symptoms in the body. 

We need to hear our heart’s messages – but not necessarily obey what our heart tells us to do.  We need to work with our heart – not against it!

3. Be aware of your heart’s reactions when you start to work on ‘heart issues’.

If the heart says “NO” to working on issues, respect this.  Often, the heart does not fully trust the Lord, so you may need to work through that blockage first.  Remember, the heart is not particularly religious; it may not even know who Jesus really is!

4.  Since most of our heart is hidden from us, we need to find out what is in our’ storeroom’. 

Just like the Lord, your heart is always trying to talk with you.

Since it doesn’t use ordinary language, you need to understand how your heart talks to you.  One way we find out what is in our heart is through ‘messengers’ we call emotions.  For most of us, these messengers have been buried, forgotten or so suppressed that we don’t recognise our heart talking to us.

In our next post, we will present 10 ways to get to know what is in your Heart and then how to deal with and bring healing to your hurting, hard or wounded Heart.

Susanne Fengler, Blog Author





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