8/22 Being Comfortable with my Body for Total Wholeness

In our last post, we asked the question: “Why do women struggle with their body image?”

In an era when women are supposed to be enjoying their ‘new sexual equality’, they still judge their bodies by unrealistic standards.  The majority of women go through cycles of dieting and gaining weight, food fads and fashion highs – perhaps even more than our mothers and grandmothers before us.  Billions of dollars are spent each year on cosmetics and hair products.  The clothing industry produces fashions worn by skinny supermodels, enticing women with “thin is beautiful”.  With all this money and fuss, most women still consider themselves far, far from perfect.  Why do women judge themselves so harshly? 2.  it’s all about Measuring sticks

Women have developed internal measuring sticks to judge themselves from “1” to “10”.  Where do these images of perfection come from?   Magazines and movies, FOO, peers,   culture in general and so on.  No matter how healthy and beautiful a woman’s body is, she still seems unhappy with it and expects others to be even more critical.  When a woman feels she doesn’t match the M.S. around her, she takes on Self-rejection.

3. Some areas where this ‘Spirit of Rejection’ wants to destroy a woman:

a)  She might feel rejected by her own ‘Adam’, her partner in life, if he is into porn, Playboy, etc,

b)  Her reaction to other women’s criticism of her can replace reality.  She may attempt to live up to other people’s view of beauty in her own life, driven by fashion, make-up and the drive to be perfect in face and body.

c)  She might believe the message:  “I’m not good enough”.  Self-hatred, self criticism and the drive to be impressive to others increases,

Remember, part of her ‘helpmate’ commission from Genesis, is to find ways to please Adam.  If his heart is hooked into pornography or some ‘ideal woman’, she will reflect this too.  She will be caught up into ‘fight it’ or ‘do it’ mode – unless she has learned to find Jesus and His answer. 4.  Who has the responsibility to be change? Self-Care has to start with YOU!  What does the Lord say I need to change – not the latest fad or magazine!  We can’t blame others.  However tempting it may be to blame the Males in our culture for unrealistic measuring sticks, we must take responsibility for our own welfare!  Godly women have the power to change!  We need to discover an Image that Father God has provided for us. If a woman is caught up in the nonsense of striving to create what cannot be, she will be miserable.  Much of women’s ‘crazy eating’ is displacement activity, compensation for their need for love.  Learn to treat yourself with true love.  You are the only one who can do this for you!  Find God’s healthy Measuring Sticks 5.  Learn to accept God’s design Every time we reject our Body, we are rejecting God’s design for womanhood!  God designed women with curves, whether to please her Adam or to comfort and help nurture children, curves are there to stay.  In fact, God designed curves to the opposite of male’s ‘angles’.

6.  Submit your body image to Jesus!  Consciously, deliberately put your body image under the Lordship of Jesus.  Discard your biases, toward your body, in favour of His.  Complete a Health inventory with regard to your Body. 

Develop problem solving steps to change what HE says needs to be.  Learn to live with whatever JESUS says doesn’t need to change.  Set others free to judge you and set yourself free to live the way God created you to be.  To some degree every woman is afflicted by this dissatisfaction with herself as she is.

Most women don’t look like supermodels – and never will, even with years of plastic surgery or Posh Spice diets.  Most women are also smart enough to know that supermodels must have an element of masochism, to remain as desperately thin as many of them do.  As Christ-followers, we need to find Father God’s view of us, not the Media’s.  Learning to be the best that we can be is essential – without tying into the ‘perfection’ of the World’s image-makers.

Susanne Fengler. Blog Author





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